“No man is a failure who has friends.”
This quote may be familiar as it is the central theme of one my favorite holiday movies, “It’s a Wonderful Life!”
This classic movie about the power of giving is one of my favorites. It stars Jimmy Stewart. If you haven’t seen it, I will tell you a little backstory.
This is the story of a man who had it all, but lost it due to losing his money for his bank.
He feels like he is failing everyone. After he wishes he never was born, an angel shows him what life would look like if he had never been born.
His guardian angel reminds him of all the friends he dearly loved… reminds him of the friends he made a difference in and the ones that made a difference in his life.
During the last scenes of the movie, George’s guardian angel, Clarence, leaves him a book as a gift. It is the book “The Adventures of Tom Sawyer” by Mark Twain. Inside the book, his guardian angel had written: “Dear George: Remember no man is a failure who has friends…”
This quote reminds us to take time to spend with the people we love, to have our priorities straight, and to always remember the importance of relationships in life.
The point of this post is to encourage you to reach out and make friends. There is power in making new friends and helping others.
Why it’s good to have people in your life who care about you.
This is not just a good philosophy, it’s a good idea. We should not forget that we are all human beings.
We can only be happy if we have the right people in our lives.
You may think that having a friend or a family member means you have to give up some of your privacy, but it’s not true.
You can enjoy the benefits of having a friend or a family member and still keep your personal space.
We need people who care about us. We need people who will love us regardless of our faults or missteps. We need people who will be there for us no matter what.
We need people who can give us honest feedback and who won’t try to sugarcoat our weaknesses. We need people who will call us out when we are being dishonest or lazy. We need people who are there for us when we are down and out and who can pick us back up when we fall.
And it’s not just about being happy for ourselves. We need people who will remind us to be happy for other people.
How to get friends who will help you succeed.
It’s never too late to make new friends. In order to have friends, you have to be a friend. You can’t expect someone to want to be your friend if you don’t give them reasons to.
One of the easiest ways to get more friends who will help you succeed is to ask for their friendship. When you ask for a person’s friendship, you’re telling them that you’re interested in them, that you respect them, and that you want to spend more time with them.
In making new friends, it does takes a little bit of effort. Here are seven great tips:
1) Make a good impression. When you go out for drinks with your friends, always make sure that you make a good impression on the person you’re going out with.
2) Do something nice for them. Show them you care and that you are genuinely interested in them.
3) Take an interest in their lives. Make a point to listen to them and ask questions.
4) When you talk, avoid talking about yourself. If you talk about yourself, the other person may feel like you are trying to show off.
5) Be friendly. Smile and wave at people. Look at them when they are speaking to you. Ask about their hobbies.
6) Make the effort to learn their names, especially their ‘first names.’ When you speak to someone and you frequently say their name, this in turn, makes them feel special and important, which they are!
7) It’s even ok to say hi to people you don’t know. It’s also ok to let someone come up to you and introduce themselves.
Why do you need to be friends with everyone.
In today’s society as well as in past times, we often feel pressure to keep up with the Jones’s and climb the corporate ladder, and to buy material things in order to show others how successful you are.
But none of that means anything and your life is not complete unless you have friends and family who love you for who you are and not for what you have or for what you do for a living.
In the modern world, we are surrounded by people and we are not able to choose who we want to be friends with. We meet people every day and they make us smile or they make us feel bad, but we can never be sure.
When you meet new people, you have to decide whether you want to be friends with them or not. But if you are thinking that you will never be friends with anyone, you are wrong. You can make friends with everyone, you just need to change your approach.
I am sure that we all have some friends that are mean or rude or that we don’t really like or if you’re like me, I just feel some people just give off a ‘negative vibe.’ When you think about your friends, you may say that you don’t know why you are friends with them because they are not initially friendly. However, you should perhaps maintain an open mind as there is a big difference between a toxic person and a good person.
I am sure that you have met people that are nice and friendly and that you have also met people that may be a little standoffish. The same thing may be true about your colleagues and your neighbors.
If you want to get along with people, you need to be friendly. If you are not friendly, then you cannot get along with anybody. So, you should be friendly to everyone.
And one more thing… learning to be ‘friendly with everyone’ doesn’t necessarily mean you have to ‘like them’…By showing that you’re ‘friendly’ and ‘open-minded’ shows others the character YOU have…
People who are important in your life are the ones who know you the best and who truly care about you. They see your worth and value as a person and they support you no matter what. They help you when you need them and they stand by you when you stumble or fall.
I would be totally amiss if I didn’t bring up that friendship is truly a two-way street as well. It’s about giving and taking, about being honest and fair, about trying to understand what the other person is feeling and going through.
That’s why friendship is a two-way street. If you are not willing to give back to a friend, you can’t expect much in return.
So my advice to you is simple… give ‘more’ than expected. Really ‘listen’ to understand; not ‘listen’ to just hear preparing for your response. Because just as friends are important to you, being a true authentic friend is even more important!
Should you need reminding of just how wonderful friends are and how they can really enhance your life, I give you these 27 top friendship quotes that will give you pause to reflect and cherish.
A friend is someone who understands your past, believes in your future, and accepts you just the way you are.— Beth Elkassih
True friendship is like sound health; the value of it is seldom known until it is lost.— Charles Caleb Colton
Rare as is true love, true friendship is rarer.Jean de La Fontaine
True friendship ought never to conceal what it thinks.— St. Jerome
Find a group of people who challenge and inspire you; spend a lot of time with them, and it will change your life.— Amy Poehler
It’s the friends you can call up at 4 a.m. that matter.— Marlene Dietrich
Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it’s all over.— Octavia Burtler
Close friends are truly life’s treasures. Sometimes they know us better than we know ourselves.— Vincent Van Gogh
A friend may be waiting behind a stranger’s face.— Maya DeAngelou
The best gift anyone can give, I believe, is the gift of sharing themselves.— Oprah Winfrey
Friendship takes work. Finding friends, nurturing friendships, scheduling face time, it all take a tremendous amount of work. But it’s worth it. If you put in the effort, you’ll see the rewards of positive friends who will make your life extraordinary.— Maya DeAngelou
I don’t know what I would have done so many times in my life if I hadn’t had my girlfriends.— Reese Whetherspoon
Anything is possible when you have the right people there to support you.— Misty Copeland
Friendships between women, as any woman will tell you, are built of a thousand small kindnesses… swapped back and forth and over again.— Michelle O’Bama
Friendship is the hardest thing in the world to explain. It’s not something you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, you really haven’t learned anything.— Muhammad Ali
Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.— Anais Nin
Let us be grateful to the people who make us happy; they are the charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.— Marcel Prost
Friends are those rare people who ask how we are and then wait to hear the answer.— Ed Cunningham
A true friend is someone who thinks that you are a good egg even though he knows that you are slightly cracked. —Bernard Meltzer
Some people arrive and make such a beautiful impact on your life, you can barely remember what life was like without them.— Anna Taylor
It’s not that diamonds are a girl’s best friend, but it’s your best friends who are your diamonds.— Gina Barreca
One of the most beautiful qualities of true friendship is to understand and be understood.— Lucius Annaeus Seneca
Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another, ‘You too? I thought I was the only one.— C.S. Lewis
Walking with a friend in the dark is better than walking alone in the light.— Helen Keller
True friendship promotes the good & happiness of one another.— Eustace Budgell
A friend is someone who doubles your fun and divides your sorrow. — Euripedest
Friends are friends because they want to be… — Beth Elkassih
“No Man is a Failure Who Has Friends”
Finally, I’d like to make it clear that you don’t need to be alone to have friends. In fact, the opposite is true. If you surround yourself with people who are kind and supportive, you can grow in a positive direction.
Whether you have a handful of close friends or a lot of acquaintances, you need them in your life. If you don’t believe me, think about the people in your life who helped shape you into the person you are today.
I leave you with this… ‘No Man (or Woman) is a Failure Who Has Friends AND Family!’
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