Learn the power of forgiveness and become a happier person. More than likely, we all have had someone who has wronged us in the past and caused much pain and anguish. It’s hard to just simply forgive and forget. In fact, I don’t think anyone forgets, especially if the incident was quite emotionally painful.
In this article, Made You Smile Back will show you the true power of forgiveness and provide you with ways to learn to move on and bring back joy and happiness into your life. We will explore what is forgiveness and why it is so important to come to terms with it and the best methods of handling it.
Hopefully, by the end of this blog, you shall be in a position to not only effectively forgive someone (and perhaps even yourself), but also see that it truly can be a lifechanger! And you will be rewarded with many blessings in return!
Alexander Pope wrote those wise words. In the poem An Essay on Criticism, Part II , 1711, Pope explains that, while anyone can make a mistake, we should aspire to do as God does, that is, show mercy and forgive sinners.
So what is forgiveness exactly and why is it so important? Forgiveness itself is actually the result of one forgiving another. More specifically forgiveness is a mental and/or spiritual process of acknowledging and ‘letting go’ of past sins committed against us.
Forgiveness is a ‘choice’ to let go of hanging on to grudges or bitterness and in the process, dealing with the ‘hurt’ in a positive way. We can never truly forgive, unless we learn to forgive our own self and use the power of ‘love’ when forgiving.
Forgiveness is for our own happiness and personal growth. The importance of the act of forgiving means you value yourself and well-being first and foremost. Read this next quote and you will see the power that forgiveness has for you!
So you see, when you are forgiving, the power belongs to ‘you’! Forgiveness frees us to live in the present. But let’s talk about forgiving and forgetting. Can one really, honestly do that?
While it sounds good in ‘theory’, the reality is one shouldn’t have to forget. Forgiving someone is not giving them a pardon for the wrong or hurt they caused. Forgiving is the ability to allow ‘ourselves’ to no longer be stuck and move on with our lives.
Sure, in time, memories will dull and the pain and hurt does indeed slowly heal. So I applaud those who can actually forget but I want to point out 4 reasons why I believe we shouldn’t have to forget.
Everyone’s knows that the word ‘forgiveness’ is synonymous to Nelson Mandela and how he lived his life. He will be remembered to have lived and died, loving and forgiving.
In 1969, while Mandela was in prison, he wrote “The threat of death evoked no desire in me to play the role of martyr.’
His famous quote, “Forgiveness liberates the soul, it removes fear,” is such a powerful weapon. It is this forgiveness towards his nation’s wrongdoers that he used as a weapon against the oppressive apartheid regime. His forgiveness of his enemies was truly lifechanging. This enabled the transformation of relationships, positive change and peace in his beloved country, South Africa.
And while we may never rise to the level of the Honorable Mandela, we all can learn proper, healthy steps to forgiveness.
If you want to experience good health, happiness and joy in a balanced life, you have to make use of the power of forgiveness! And just as important, if one can also have unconditional love in the act of forgiveness, this truly will be a life changer.
Forgiveness and unconditional love are art that takes time to learn. But when you learn how, the true Power of Forgiveness takes on a divine elevation and can and is a life changer.
I would be in total amiss if I didn’t include what I feel is a very important component of the “Power of Forgiveness”. In fact, I would be willing to go on the record and state that 99% of those reading this blog are invested spiritually with your own individual faith and beliefs.
The concept of forgiveness might differ, but it still calls for love and a pure heart. For in my mind, the ultimate ‘divine power of forgiveness’ is provided to us in the unconditional love of God/Allah, etc. with the act of praying or meditating daily. And when you do this, forgiveness truly becomes lifechanging. Blessings to all!
Love is the silent partner of forgiveness. Out of love, the hurt person may forgive their partner. This pardons him for his transgression and frees him from needless stress and anxiety. He may, as a result, introspect and resolve not to repeat the ‘crime’. Forgiveness also helps the ‘victim’ to avoid despair, anger, and bitterness. So the relationship can continue with greater tolerance and understanding.
The decision to forgive is not an easy one as it demands introspection. But the process is a simple one to follow:
– Examine the issue objectively
– Reflect on your actions and those of the person who caused the hurt
-Show acceptance for the pain and let it go
– Make the choice to forgive by showing compassion and love
It’s important to cultivate forgiveness in our daily lives as it is so good for our mental health. Forgiving a wrong whether it’s a betrayal by a partner or slights by your boss allows you to:
– Assess your actions and your role in the issue
– Develop greater self-confidence as you strive to avoid future conflicts of this type
– Build a positive mindset
– Exhibit good values like kindness and compassion
– Reduce stress and anxiety
When you show true forgiveness, you instinctively start to show more spiritual qualities.
You intentionally embrace the love for fellow man and find it easier to show understanding, compassion, and empathy. There is no desire to hold onto anger, bitterness, grudges or revenge as you see them as negative qualities that you do not want to take root in your life. So, the act of forgiveness is powerful in its transformative power.
This post refers to becoming “forgivingly fit.” Forgiveness is seen as a muscle that needs to be worked on regularly so that it remains in peak condition. Here are a few ways to strengthen the forgiveness muscle:
– Choose not to gossip about the conflict
– Look at the conflict from the other person’s point of view
– Focus on the bonds you shared prior to the issue
– Be patient and compassionate in your daily actions
– Show kindness and love to the needy
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