When the Pain is Unbearable – Coping with Emotional Pain

When the pain is unbearable – coping with emotional pain.

Do you have emotional pain? Have you ever felt like you were suffocating in your own life? 

One of the most difficult things in life is when the pain is unbearable. There are times when we can’t even take it any longer.

In this article, we talk about dealing with emotional pain. How to cope with it and how to deal with it in the future.

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We shall explore the difference between pain and suffering and look at the steps you can take to cope with emotional pain. We will also share some strategies you can use to deal with the pain and move forward in your life.  

Empowering quotes to help you get through this is also provided and with an insightful wrap-up.

What is Emotional Pain & How This Pain Feels

What is emotional pain and how this pain feels.

We all experience emotional pain at some point in our lives. 

What is emotional pain exactly? Simply put, emotional pain is the feeling of pain that is caused by emotions.

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Emotions are feelings that come from inside of you. Emotions are your way of expressing how you feel about something. They range from happiness to sadness, anger, fear, disappointment, and so on.

Emotional pain is that feeling of being hurt, sad, frustrated, or angry. It is a very common emotion and one of the biggest struggles many of us face in our lives.

When emotional pain becomes unbearable, it feels like you are drowning. You might feel like there is nothing you can do to stop it.

In addition, emotional pain can sometimes feel like a crushing weight on our chest. As humans, we are emotionally driven creatures, and as such, emotional pain is a normal part of our lives.

When we experience emotional pain, we feel physical and mental discomfort. Sometimes the pain is very intense and makes us feel hopeless.

So when your life doesn’t go the way you expected, how do you deal with it? How do you get through the pain of emotional distress? What can you do to move past the pain?

Coping with emotional pain is one of the hardest things to do in life. It often feels like there’s no escape from it. And yet, we all need help dealing with pain.

The good news is that coping with pain doesn’t have to be difficult.  Later in this article, you shall learn several coping tips to help you move beyond the pain and be positive and productive again.

Symptoms & Causes of Emotional Unbearable Pain

Symptoms of Emotional Unbearable Pain

Emotional pain can be caused by a variety of factors. They can be physical, mental, or both.

When you are in emotional pain, you feel like your heart is being squeezed. It’s a feeling that takes over your body and makes you feel like you are going to burst into tears.

Emotional pain happens when the emotions become overwhelming. Emotional pain can be caused by many factors. It can be caused by a sudden blow to the head, or it can be a long-standing issue that has been building up over time.  Some examples of this would be when you are sad, stressed, depressed, have heartbreak, etc.

You could experience emotional pain due to an event such as the loss of a loved one, a breakup, or a job loss. Or it could be something more internal, such as a bad day at work.

It may not always be clear to you that the emotion you are feeling is emotional pain.

When you feel like you are emotionally stuck, you may not realize that you are going through emotional pain.

A common misconception is that emotional pain is the same as mental pain.  Medical research reveals that the perception of pain is two-fold.

Emotional pain is the feeling of being overwhelmed by emotion. Mental pain is the feeling of being overwhelmed by thoughts or feelings.

Physical causes include physical injury, illness, and surgery. Examples include broken bones, an infection, or surgery.

Mental causes include mental injury, stress, and mental illness. These are more often caused by other mental health conditions.  The most common emotional pain when feeling depressed.

5 Leading  Causes Of Emotional Pain or Agony

1. Loss

Losing someone close to you is one of the most painful things that can happen to you.

Grief is a normal part of life for many people, though for some it hits hard and early, while for others, it doesn’t.

2. Mental Illness

Feeling emotional pain can be a symptom of mental illness, but sometimes the reason for the pain is the illness itself.

Mental anguish can stem from various mental illnesses, such as bipolar disorder, depression, or borderline personality disorder (BPD), among others.

Those living with these disorders are prone to experiencing emotional anguish and pain more regularly than others.  These emotions often lead to bio-psychosocial phenomenon.

3. Physical Illness

Chronic pain, whether it is acute (like a broken bone) or chronic (like arthritis), can make us feel emotionally awful.

In the case of patients with chronic pain, there may be challenges, both physical and mental. And it can cause more than just physical pain.

4. Regret

People make bad decisions that create stress in their lives because they did not learn from past mistakes and regrets.

Everyone makes mistakes, but if you’ve been living in past regrets, you may feel trapped in a negative emotional state and unable to let go of them. You’re going to learn how to overcome these feelings and move forward, so you can live a happy and productive life.

5. Rejection & Failure

Most people experience the emotional pain of rejection or failure.

For some, feeling rejected can be emotionally damaging.

 In the next section, we shall learn some effective coping strategies so you can alleviate and experience stress reduction.

How to Learn to Manage When Emotional Pain is Unbearable

How to cope when emotional pain is unmanageable.

We all deal with emotions every day. Some days are harder than others.

But sometimes the pain becomes unbearable and the struggle to get to the next day is difficult at best.

That’s when we need to learn how to cope.

It’s important to acknowledge and understand how your emotions affect you, and what you can do to cope with emotional pain.

There are several ways to cope with emotional pain.  According to ‘Loving Roots Project,” research shows these 10 healthy tips:











Acceptance can help us transform our thinking and live in our highest self.  

Getting to know your thoughts and feelings so you understand what’s causing you pain is important. But it isn’t always easy to do, especially when you’re feeling down or afraid.

It’s important to explore new activities that will help you move forward in a positive and productive way.

 Top 25 Quotes About Emotional Pain

According to an earlier blog I wrote about how to ‘heal’ from emotional agony, powerful self-healing quotes can help you in relieving your emotional pain.  Hopefully several will personally resonate with you.  

I present these top 25 quotes about self-healing for inspiration and healing:

Quotes 1 thru 13:

“Tears are God’s heart shield wipers. They clear the ‘pain’ from our hearts so we can see the ‘path’ clearly.”

Beth Elkassih

“We cannot selectively numb emotions. When we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions.”

Brené Brown

“Out of suffering have emerged the strongest souls; the most massive characters are seared with scars.”

Kahlil Gibran

“We do not heal the past by dwelling there; we heal the past by living fully in the present.

Marianne Williamson

“Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls your life.”

Akshay Dubey

“People try to hide their pain. But they’re wrong. Pain is something to carry, like a radio. You feel your strength in the experience of pain. It’s all in how you carry it. That’s what matters. Pain is a feeling. Your feelings are a part of you. Your own reality. If you feel ashamed of them, and hide them, you’re letting society destroy your reality. You should stand up for your right to feel your pain.”

Jim Morrison

“It is our wounds that create in us a desire to reach for miracles. The fulfillment of such miracles depends on whether we let our wounds pull us down or lift us up toward our dreams.”

Jocelyn Soriano

“Bad things do happen; how I respond to them defines my character and the quality of my life. I can choose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can choose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have — life itself.”

– Walter Anderson

“Letting go means to come to the realization that some people are a part of your history, but not a part of your destiny.”

Steve Maraboli

Always believe that something wonderful is about to happen. What appear to be the END may really be a new BEGINNING.”


“You are strong. You are beautiful. You are resilient. You are loved. You are capable. You are not weak. You are not defected. You are not weird. You are not a lost cause. You are not different. You’re just human…”

The Anxiety Man

No darkness lasts forever. And even there, there are stars.

Ursula K. Le Guin

“No storm, not even the one in your life, can last forever. The storm is just passing over.

Iyanla Vanzant

Quotes 14 thru 25:

“I am bent, but not broken. I am scarred, but not disfigured. I am sad, but not hopeless. I am tired, but not powerless. I am angry, but not bitter. I am depressed, but not giving up.” 


“You need to know that part of being strong and tough is having the courage to ask for help when you need it. You must not silently suffer. And, if I may speak personally, we are all in this together because asking for help was one of the best decisions that I have ever made. You will be continually amazed how life changes for the better.“

Prince Harry

“Listen to the people who love you. Believe that they are worth living for even when you don’t believe it. Seek out the memories depression takes away and project them into the future. Be brave; be strongthis too shall pass.”

Andrew Soloman

Don’t let pain define you, let it refine you.”

Tim Fargo

“God gave us the pain to remind us we are alive, so we will learn to value the joys and beauty of the world.”

Tom Corr

“Take chances, make mistakes. That’s how you grow. Pain nourishes your courage. You have to fail in order to practice being brave.”

Mary Tyler Moore

“To truly laugh, you must be able to take your pain, and play with it!”

Charlie Chaplin

“Your greatest healing lies in forgiving all that has wrong and hurt you.”

Lailah Gifty Akita

“Be real. Be authentic. Be yourself, whatever the emotional cost. Pain goes away, while regret over a life lived trying to be a plastic version of yourself does not.”

Vironika Tugaleva

Happiness is possible regardless of outside experiences because when you love everything, the need of a physical, emotional, mental or spiritual healing is no longer required. Pure love sees only pure love in its reflection.”

Lori Brant

“What you feel, you can heal.”

John Gray

“The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind”

Caroline Myss

Final Last Words

It’s vital to identify things that work well for you and use them.

Don’t give up immediately if you are having painful emotions.

Move forward and take care of your own physical and mental well-being.

And one more thing… do know that once you have mastered the ability to cope with unbearable emotional pain, you can healthfully move forward which will lead you to a happier life.

When the Pain is Unbearable - Coping with Emotional Pain

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