Self-Discipline is the Highest Form of Self-Love & Respect

Self-discipline is the highest form of self-love.

How do we practice self-discipline, and why is it the highest form of self-love? We all know that self-discipline is essential to achieving our goals.

Self-discipline is what keeps you on track and what allows you to achieve your greatest potential. If you are not disciplined, you will never grow into who you are meant to be.

Most of us struggle with self-discipline. We all know that self-discipline is one of the biggest keys to succeeding in life, but often times we struggle to get past our excuses.

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In this blog, we shall look closer at:

  • What self-discipline is and why it is the highest form of self-love, 
  • We will learn how procrastination can get in our way,
  • We shall look at some empowering suggestions of self-discipline examples, and
  • We will even discuss the ever-popular, motivating, and inspirational  Hollywood celebrity, Will Smith, who is also a motivational speaker.  You will be impressed by the depth of his words and why he feels self-discipline is really all about self-respect and then some.

To further inspire us, top self-discipline and self-love quotes will also be shared.  Finishing up will be a thought-provoking ‘final words of summary’ to get us started in helping us to develop our own personal self-discipline and achieve the ‘greatness’ we were born to be.

Self-Discipline is the Highest Form of Self-Love

What Exactly Is Self-Discipline?

According to Rafael Rolli, in his October 20, 2020, Medium article discussing self-discipline and self-love, he states:

“Discipline is one of the highest, if not the highest, form of self-love. It is quite literally telling yourself that you will delay instant gratification and comfort for better things to come in the future. Discipline is trusting yourself by doing what you said you were going to do. By aligning your actions to your thoughts. From thinking to doing, to being.”

Rafael Rolli

He goes on and adds:  “True self-love is how you manage yourself in the face of adversity. What you are willing to do to create the version of yourself you admire the most.”

There’s no question that true self-love is hard. It is the hardest yet most rewarding thing you can ever do.  

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Discipline means doing something hard right now so that your future self can enjoy a happy life. It means passing up something that feels good at the moment as an act of self-love.

If you can learn to successfully ‘lean into’ mastering self-discipline, you will experience the true essence of self-love.

Eliminate Procrastination Once & For All

Yes, we all know that self-discipline is important in life, but when it comes to procrastination, self-discipline needs to be refined. If you struggle to follow through on tasks or find yourself constantly putting them off, you need some help in developing the discipline to actually do what you set out to do.

Procrastination is caused by a lack of self-discipline, lack of willpower, and the inability to start a task at the last minute.  Because self-discipline is essential to achieving your goals, this must be tackled head-on before you can go forward.

So… the very first thing you must learn to do is change your mindset.  And by making the conscientious decision to ‘change your mindset, you’re actually setting into motion the beginnings of ‘self-discipline.’

One of the easiest ways to conquer procrastination is by setting small goals. It takes a bit of planning and yes, a little bit of self-discipline. By having a schedule for yourself, you will make sure that you don’t procrastinate. When you have a list of things you want to accomplish, you can’t procrastinate because you will know exactly what you need to do next.

Getting rid of procrastination clears away in receiving amazing benefits for you.  You’ll achieve more of your goals.  By eliminating procrastination, you learn to tap more into your potential.  And by doing so, you also now have more self-control.

This paves the way to now being able to take your personal ‘self-discipline into the highest form of self-love.’

Examples of Self-Discipline

A.  You Are What You Think

One of the first things we need to do is to ‘shift our perspective’ on what self-discipline really is.  Because what you think becomes a part of you.  That being said, let’s further discuss.

Discipline is sometimes seen as something negative, that we choose to do because it is the right thing to do.  We tend to see discipline as some sort of punishment, or a set of rules that we must follow.  But actually, self-discipline is truly a form of self-love.  

So, instead of thinking self-discipline, following rules of right and right, or even the simple definition of having ‘willpower’, we need to change how we think to how it really means learning to love ourselves at the highest level.

What does it really mean to love yourself?  Self-love is being patient with the rewards that come from disciplining your behavior and having respect for who you are.

Discipline is a means to happiness, not the other way around.

Yes, you are what you think.  By being able to be strong and wise enough to not let external factors determine our choices.  Instead, we must learn to let our inner voice, our inner self-love, speak for us, and be loud and concise.

B. The Power of Self-Respect in Learning Self-Discipline

“Discipline is to forgo the immediate pleasure in exchange for long-term self-respect.” – Will Smith

Self-respect is a part of self-discipline.

Discipline is all about self-respect. In fact, the dictionary defines discipline as “a habit or practice of regularly following a particular course of action.”

So if you want to be disciplined, you must also respect yourself.

If you think that this is a contradiction, then you’ve missed the point of self-discipline.

Self-discipline is an internalized act of self-respect.  This is a good thing because self-respect is the most important ingredient in a healthy life.

Self-respect means having high expectations for yourself and your abilities. It is the basis of self-confidence and self-esteem.

If you do not respect yourself, then you cannot respect others. If you respect others, then you can respect yourself.

We are all born with certain natural talents and gifts. When you begin to appreciate and ‘respect’ and accept your abilities, you become happier.

Self-Discipline is the Highest Form of Self-Love

C. Disciplined Self-Love

The first step to loving yourself more is to realize that you are the one who will pay the price for the decisions you make in your life right now.

This can be hard because instant gratification is often very tempting. But, think about your future self as a separate person that is not you. If you picture yourself as someone that you love, it can be easier to remember that you have the power to either help or hurt that person.

Sometimes, starting an inner dialogue with yourself can also help! It sounds silly, but pretending to have a conversation with yourself in the future can really help you focus on the important things.

Once you recognize that self-discipline is the highest form of self-love, then you shall be closer to achieving the goals you have set for yourself.

D. Discipline Yourself in the Face of Temptation

When things are hard you are able to endure and overcome, any problem that you may face in life when you have self-discipline in your life.

This is the basic tenant that Hollywood celebrity, Will Smith offers in his ongoing motivational speeches.  It’s indispensable in order to succeed to know how to rebound from difficult situations, and how to act when you’re in the face of temptation.  Of not feeling like doing the things you should be doing.

Will reminds us to ‘persist, resist, push harder to achieve our goals.’ You can let your goals be the fire that is inside of you — a fire that will make you do things when things are not doable in others’ opinion.

Self-Discipline is the Highest Form of Self-Love

Thoughts and Quotes of Self-Discipline by Will Smith

The famous and popular, albeit somewhat controversial, Will Smith, as previously mentioned, has more to say.  He has made a name for himself for his well-publicized opinions about self-discipline and what it means to be the highest forms of self-love and self-respect.

Will believes that self-discipline is the definition of self-love.  When you say that you love yourself, that means that you have loving behavior towards yourself.

Self-discipline is the center of all material success.  You cannot win the war against the world if you can’t win the war against your own mind.

The following are eight additional quotes about self-discipline that is both thought-provoking and incredibly inspiring. Yes, they are all direct quotes from Will Smith:

  • 99% of people are not willing to do what it takes to make their dreams come to pass.
  • At the center of bringing any dream into fruition is self-discipline.
  • Self-discipline is the center of all material success.
  • You can’t win the war against the world if you can’t win the war against your own mind.
  • I believe that self-discipline is the definition of self-love.
  • The separation of talent and skill is one of the greatest misunderstood concepts for people who are trying to excel, who have dreams, and who want to do things. Talent you have naturally, skill is only developed by thousand and thousands of hours of beating on your craft.
  • 99% is the same as zero. If you are gonna do 99, go ahead and stay home.
  • Make a choice and decide what it’s going to be, who you’re going to be and how you’re going to do it. 

Self-Love and Self-Discipline Quotes

Get inspired and motivated with these self-discipline and self-love quotes and start your journey of successfully achieving your personal dreams and goals!

10 Top Self Discipline Quotes

We all have dreams. But in order to make dreams come into reality, it takes an awful lot of determination, dedication, self-discipline, and effort. 

Jesse Owen


Just because you’re struggling with self-discipline doesn’t mean you have to raise the white flag and declare your self-improvement efforts a complete failure. Instead, work to increase the chances that you’ll stick to your healthier habits – even when you don’t feel like it.

Amy Morin


When people ask me about what I learned from martial arts, I don’t talk about my favorite punches or kicks, or about fights won or lost. I talk about learning self-discipline, ethics and manners, and benevolence and fairness.

Jonathan Maberry


The Dalai Lama’s entire being is about peace and harmony, forgiveness and self-discipline. Those are qualities to be admired.

Joe Nichols


Respect your efforts, respect yourself. Self-respect leads to self-discipline. When you have both firmly under your belt, that’s real power.

Clint Eastwood


With constant self-discipline and self-control, you can develop greatness of character.

Grenville Kleiser


Happiness is dependent on self-discipline. We are the biggest obstacles to our own happiness. It is much easier to do battle with society and with others than to fight our own nature.

Dennis Prager


In reading the lives of great men, I found that the first victory they won was over themselves… self-discipline with all of them came first.

Harry S Truman


Everybody starts at the top and then has the problem of staying there. Lasting accomplishment, however, is still achieved through a long, slow climb and self-discipline.

Helen Hayes


A self-discipline is an act of cultivation. It requires you to connect today’s actions to tomorrow’s results. There’s a season for sowing a season for reaping. Self-discipline helps you know which is which. 

Gary Ryan Blair


10 Top Self-Love Quotes

Self-Discipline is the Highest Form of Self-Love

Discipline is the strongest form of self-love.

Will Smith


Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept. Anna Taylor


You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.



You find peace not by rearranging the circumstances of your life, but by realizing who you are at the deepest level. Eckhart Tolle

Eckhart Tolle


Find out who you are and be that person. That’s what your soul was put on this Earth to be. Find that truth, live that truth, and everything else will come.

Ellen Degeneres


Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world.

Lucille Ball


I was once afraid of people saying, ‘Who does she think she is?’ Now I have the courage to stand and say, ‘This is who I am.



Self-love has very little to do with how you feel about your outer self. It’s about accepting all of yourself.

Tyra Banks


Owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we’ll ever do.

Brene Brown


Find yourself… love yourself… accept yourself… be yourself!

Beth Elkassih


Self-Discipline is the Highest Form of Self-Love

Final Last Words

Self-discipline is the highest form of self-love because you are what you do.

Self-discipline isn’t just about willpower.  It’s also about having a positive outlook on yourself.  As you improve yourself, you improve your life.

Learn to respect yourself enough to lean into the initial discomfort of being self-disciplined enough to reach your goals… not 99% of the time… but 100%.

There are many ways to do this as discussed above. You need to learn how to master the ability to control your thoughts, actions, and emotions. Yes, it takes much time and practice to develop this kind of discipline.

But when you do, the rewards are immense. 


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