Made You Smile Back is pleased to present this thought-provoking and enlightening article, ‘The Magical Touch of Kindess’. Continuing the ‘Happiness Series‘, we shall define what kindness really is, the ripple effect it creates and how it definitely is linked to happiness and well-being.
In addition, we shall explore the four different kinds of kindness. We will discuss the many positive
The best of the best kindness quotations will be sprinkled throughout and a collection of Random Acts of Kindness suggestions will be provided. Last but not least, Made You Smile Back shall conclude with an exciting 7 Day Challenge of Kindness.
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I love the title of this blog, ‘the magical touch of kindness’ because after you learn the true meaning of kindness, you shall see that it’s not only a ‘magical touch‘, its also realizing the ‘magical power’ of kindness and how it can truly be life-changing.
Wikipedia defines kindness as: “behavior marked by ethical characteristics, a pleasant disposition, and a concern for others. Its also considered to be a virtue.”
Being ‘nice’ is not the same as being ‘kind’.
A lot of people get this very confused. Let me explain the difference.
Kindness is doing something and not expecting anything in return. Kindness is respect and helping others without waiting for someone to help one back.
The writer Emily Esfahani Smith says:
“There are two ways to think about kindness. You can think about it as a fixed trait: either you have it or you don’t. Or you could think of kindness as a muscle. In some people, that muscle is naturally stronger than in others, but it can grow stronger in everyone with exercise.”
As stated earlier, kindness is a virtue. And unfortunately, one which we don’t see as often as we should. We’ve become too disconnected and distracted. Let’s find our way back and reap the ‘powerful and magical’ benefits that kindness gives back.
Per Gilbert Ross, of Soulhiker.com:
This is some of the magic that kindness can manifest in your life:
Before we dive into explaining the four types of kindness. Let’s take a moment and
The first type of kindness is known as self-kindness. This is the kindness we treat ourselves. Because really, when you think about it, how can one be kind to others if you don’t know how to even be kind to yourself! Another term for self-kindness is also known as self-compassion.
“Self-compassion is simply giving the same kindness to ourselves that we would give to others.”Christopher Germer, The Mindful Path to Self-Compassion
If you’ve had the opportunity of reading my recently published book, ‘The Power of Unexpected Miracles’, I reiterate how we are all beautifully unique and miraculous beings! We need to recognize our self-worth and celebrate who we are and what we have to offer humanity.
The day we all become truly happy with who we are and begin to treat ourselves with the kindness and respect that we deserve, is the day that the world will become a much more loving, peaceful place. Happiness and the key to loving others begins with learning to love ourselves.
The second type of kindness is known as ‘social kindness’. This type of kindness is often what we see and behave in work environments or around friends and family on a routine daily basis.
It’s similar to being ‘nice’ but it is what society expects of us. To have empathy towards others. To be a helping hand. To be polite. To volunteer for social projects. This type of kindness, while also very important to have, usually comes with the expectation or having kindnesses reciprocated back or wanting our ‘social kindness’ to be observed and praised by our peers.
Social kindness is driven by the need for other people’s approval and validation. How many times have you seen someone go out of their way to be ‘kind’ or rather being ‘nice’ to someone making sure others could immediately see your charity. This is not true kindness.
Let’s examine the next third type of kindness. This is the one most people associate kindness with — spontaneous kindness.
Spontaneous kindness is kindness in direct response to a perceived need or opportunity. It is also known as ‘random acts of kindness’. It is an unexpected act of charity or helpfulness and is often done for strangers.
But what’s separates this type of kindness from the other types is simply this… They are selfless acts, both large and small, that are committed unexpectedly, without prompting and with no apparent ulterior motive.
Folks, there is truly a ‘magical touch’ with each random act of kindness we perform to others! And you’re doubly blessed with the incredible feelings of well-being and humbleness one receives.
Random acts of kindness come in all forms. Just giving someone an unsolicited compliment today will put a smile on both of your faces. Thanking a police officer or fire fighter for their service, just picking up the trash in a public park or offering to babysit for a single mom just feels right.
If we show compassion, our kids will show compassion. What we give to others in our lifetime defines who we really are.
Planned kindess is what I call intentional kindness. This is where you can plan for a certain time period – a day, a week, a month. You can identify any number of acts of kindness during that period. The point is to plan in advance specific acts of kindness you will do for identified recipients.
It’s my humble opinion that planned kindness or rather intentional kindness is kindness you must also exercise in your relationships. It is this ‘intention’ that is the ‘magic glue’ that keeps couples together.
There’s another sub-type of planned kindness and it is the one which is the most difficult to even do for some of us. And that is – doing acts of kindness to those who are simply not nice people. But you know what, this is the kindness which has the most ‘magical powers’ of making a difference. And the more people who do this, the better our world shall become.
In the next section, we shall be discussing what all these types of kindnesses can do. It’s called the ‘ripple effect’.
In today’s world it is far too easy to miss the powerful ripple effect caused by one kind act, and no one demonstrates this better than the act of ‘paying it forward’ phenomenon.
How many of you have had the pleasure of being in a long line going thru the drive-thru at Starbucks® and when you finally pull up to the window to pay, you’re told its already been paid for! Made you feel incredible didn’t it?
And I would be willing to bet that it made you feel so good, you made the decision to ‘pay it forward’ for the next person driving up behind you. It’s a proven scientific fact that random acts of kindness are not only contagious but can be exponentially impactful on the world as a whole.
I can’t express enough why these RAKs (random acts of kindness) are so important for today’s society for there is an unseen potential that even one small act can have the ‘magical touch’ to make a more healthy and happier society. It truly can be life-changing.
Would you like to learn about some creative and innovative small acts of kindness that you can do? Take a look at these suggestions and as you do, select a couple to put into action this week! You’ll find out why shortly.
At the People’s Choice Awards in 2017, Ellen Degeneres made history in winning 3 awards including Favorite Daytime TV host and Favorite Animated Movie Voice.
It indeed was a magical moment which she approached the stage to receive her awards and she gave this memorable speech about the love and kindness of mankind and what we all should strive for.
Kindness is a much-underrated value in society today. But, it’s a magical skill that transforms both the giver and the receiver. It helps to build respect, tolerance, and understanding. Imagine how wonderful the world would be if kindness was the norm rather than the exception?
Think of kindness as a muscle. Work every day to strengthen it. Start the kindness habit by being intentional with your words and actions. Make the following quote a rule to live by:
Here are a few health advantages of being kind:
* Strengthens the immune system
* Good for your heart health
* Lessens depression and stress
Being kind to friends shows them you love and care for them. It deepens the friendship by encouraging friends to reciprocate with kindness. The relationship is likely to be marked by other positive values like compassion, loyalty, and generosity. This is the foundation of lifelong friendships.
You do not need money or any special stuff to show kindness. Here are a few kindness habits to start:
* Smile at people on the way to work or school
* Greet strangers cheerfully
* Allow other drivers to switch into your lane graciously
* Give someone your seat on the bus or train
* Run errands for neighbors
Special Acknowledgment to POOVANESH PATHER, Contributing Writer for FAQ.
Hey Everyone! I hope you’re ready for a great week! Yep, I am definitely issuing you a challenge. A 7 day kindness challenge. It’s super easy and only entails 2 simple rules (well there’s is an optional 3rd one…)
Then after the 7 days are over, come back to this post and comment about how your experience was. Hopefully, we’ll get over 100+ comments from as many people reading this to participate!
I hope you have enjoyed this fun and informative article on the ‘magic touch’ of kindness. Please join in the conversation below and let us know what small acts of kindness you have received lately or have done for someone. And don’t forget about the challenge!
How timely to put this article out there for the world to see! We absolutely need more kindness in our world with so much divisiveness going on with Covid & Politics! We need to hear more about kindness and take the challenge of spreading it around! I love your ideas and the call to action! My husband and I recently have gotten sick and we have had several people offer to pick up groceries for us or make dinner for us! We are definitely blessed by our family and friends!
kindness is critical to make our world a better place.
love your explanation of the types of kindness that we can express to one another.
thanks for sharing this heart warming post.
Wow! So many great thoughts on kindness! I agree that kindness is very powerful when it comes to relationships. I agree that it helps in fostering compassion towards others. I really like the idea of planned kindness and being intentional about showing kindness towards others. Great post! 🙂
wonderful blog i was searching to write blog and found this because of your affectionate and inspiring blog i am sure that mine will be as good as yours.
Miss Aanya, thanks for the positive comments. I wish you the best. Be sure to keep in touch so I know what your blog site shall be.
This is so beautiful and important. Kindness can make all the difference.
Grace, thank you for your kind words. Many blessings.
I really enjoyed this post, it explains kindness so well. I hadn’t given thought to the different types of kindness but will start being more mindful each day, adding to my journal the different acts of kindness.
Angie, thanks for your response about my blog on The Magical Touch of Kindness. I see you are a journaler as well. Many blessings.
Kindness is especially important if you have a chronic illness. When I worked FT, it was the kindness of my colleagues that made the stressful environment bearable. Just to give you a silly example but meant so much to me. To get from the admin area to the car park, there is a flight of about 10 stairs. On a windy day, I was so afraid that the wind would topple me over (as I was so underweight) that I often had a co-worker involuntarily help me down. Little acts of kindness mean a lot to those who are unused to it. Gratitude and affirmations are big today but kindness needs to be given equal importance. Great post.
Poovanesh, thank you for your comments. I don’t think people realize how easy it is to simply be kind, especially to one another. The world would be such a better place if everyone practiced kindness on a regular daily basis. Many blessings.
This is a wonderful post! Who knew there were so many layers to kindness??! I certainly didn’t, and I wish more people did. The world would be a better place for sure ???
Tania, thanks for your comments. When I was researching in preparation of writing this blog on kindness, I, too, was surprised with the different ‘types of kindness’. So glad you enjoyed it! Many blessings.
That’s a really good post. Love all the ideas.
Teani, thank you for your response on my blog, ‘The Magical Touch of Kindness’. Many blessings to you.
Thank you for shedding light on this important act of kindness and its benefits. I never knew there were 4 types of kindness. I love the description of kindness, and yes, it’s something you either have or don’t. I also love your use of the muscle metaphor to strengthen kindness. I always love reading your posts as they remind me of how simple and enjoyable life is when we have faith.
Raina, thank you so much for your positive comments on my blog regarding Kindness. Many blessings.
I received a small act of kindness from my 8 year old who when I accidently stabbed my thumb helped me to fix it and did small jobs around the house as I was in so much pain.
When sometimes you feel like kids are just take take take they do help out when you can’t
Allison, thank you for sharing a great story!
Wow! I love your blog so much. It’s like a happy place. It is sad how nowadays people think we are weird when we are kind or think there is some selfish motive behind this. Still being kind is the best thing to live a happy life. We all should be like, ‘If I can, You can too’. This post needs to be shared more and more. ❤️
Thanks so much for your kind words regarding this blog on ‘The Magical Touch of Kindness’. Please feel free to share via Facebook to all your
friends. Many blessings to you.
“How can one be kind to others if you don’t know how to even be kind to yourself! ” – so true. Also, love your ideas for random acts of kindness.
Karletta, thank you for your positive comments. They mean alot!
Thank you so much for this wonderful post, yet again. You always have such amazing, feel good content to share. I love reading your stuff. Especially love how you pointed out the difference between being kind and being nice.
Sasha, yes it was an eye-opener for me to see what the subtle differences as well between niceness vs kindness.
What a terrific blog post! Thanks for sharing!
Sara, thanks for your positive comments.
I was doing kindness challenge before and now again will start. I just LOVE reading this post, great vibes and so uplifting. Thanks for this happiness series. I will them all!!
Sunshine! Yes, I myself am enjoying this kindness challenge. I love your ‘avatar name’ and will certainly check out your website as well. Take care!
I’ve never considered there are 4 types of kindness. I really liekd your post, kindness is indeed like it has magical benefits. I wish more people were kind iin our daily lives.
I have noticed that sometimes when I’m unexpectedly kind (like offering my parinking site to someone that cannot park his/her well), people are confused like thinking ‘He’s wierd” 😀
Chris, thanks for the comments. You know what! Keeping being ‘wierd’! I love it.
If we all took some time & space to spread kindness around us the world would be such a better place! That’s why I absolutely love people like yourself! I want to take a moment and say, “thank you for being you! Thank you for having the heart to spread kindness to others, and inspiring others to do the same.” I only hope to also inspire as many people to spread love, joy, and peace. Thanks for inspiring me!
Nicole! You have no idea how much your sincere comments mean to me! We are definitely like-minded. I wish the ‘best of the best’ to you always!
awesome well written. This world needs more of unconditional love and kindness. Brave for taking on this topic and doing an amazing job. I finally realized being nice and kind are two different things. Thanks
Gerald, thank for your positive kindness. Yes, when I was researching for writing this topic, I too, learned the subtle differences of the differences between kindness and simply being nice.
I love reading your posts, they are so uplifting and full of positivity and definitely turn a frown upside down ?. I really enjoyed reading this and learning about the different varieties of kindness. Keep up the awesome work ?
Michelle, you’re so kind. Thank you for the vote of encouragement. I did enjoy writing this one. Hopefully you shall accept my challenge and take the 7 Day Kindness Challenge!
Wow, what a great way to explain Kindness. Didn’t realize there were so many descriptions and categories. I try to practice ‘kindness’ daily. Never know who needed that one small act to make such a big impact!!! Great article. Keep up the good work!!!! One day at a time!
Andrea, thanks for your kind comments. Yes, the ripple effect alone can be a wonderful community chain reaction which can make a great impact on people’s lives in a life-changing way.
Such a comprehensive post. Thanks
for emphasizing the kindness. Kindness
is so magical, indeed…
Yes, kindness is indeed magical.?